5/11/2023 0 Comments Negative character traitsThe inner conversation that was negative switches over into one that is encouraging, supportive and helpful. The consistency of the Inner Critic is unmatched in its ability to support our success when it is shifted into the Inner Coach. We want to embrace it and give it a job that supports our success by making requests that improve things in our offices and our lives. The aspect of the personality that notices when things could be improved is an important part of who we are. What do leaders do when we notice we’re caught in complaining? Create a powerful request. As a result, lots of people were frustrated and complaining. Recently I worked with a team in the midst of an organizational change that had not gone well. But one of the most important skills of successful leaders is asking the tough questions! Give the Inner Doubter a new job-helping you build powerful skills in inquiry. If you’re running self-doubt as information or evidence, then it becomes a block. Below are four examples of how personality traits perceived as negative are nothing less than strengths in disguise. The key is to stop looking outside and start strengthening what’s within. This level of growth often takes some coaching, but every aspect of your personality has a gift to give you. To reach our full potential, we need to learn to evolve low-end traits to the highest end of the spectrum, so they actually become personal strengths. Limiting traits are on the lower/weaker end and more productive traits are on the higher/stronger end. Think of aspects of your (or anyone’s) personality as existing on a spectrum. Most often, our success depends on the ability to make that shift to the strongest parts of who we are quickly and adeptly. Inside what we consider to be “negative” traits and behaviors we’d like to improve are simply aspects of ourselves that need to be recognized, brought to the surface and strengthened. 1 cause of self-induced stress.īut what if there’s actually nothing about you that needs to be fixed?įundamentally, there’s nothing wrong or broken about any of us. This kind of approach to “self-improvement” is the No. Robert Holden that describes a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job and with the next partner. It’s classic destination addiction, a term coined by my mentor and friend Dr. Before we know it, we’re not feeling good about where we are-ever. But even self-improvement needs moderation or we can start thinking we’re not good enough, we’re broken. Perhaps you have a list of what you’d like to stop doing, start doing or change. We all have things we would like to improve. In the work I do as a leadership coach, I see over and over how hard we are on ourselves. Who knew that Nana’s simple wisdom would prove to be one of the most effective strategies for personal growth and professional success? “Everything in moderation,” she said with a little sparkle in her eye. On her 100 th birthday, I asked her to tell me how she managed to live such a successful life. How To Shift Negative Traits into Positive Leadership Attributes
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